Uncl follows a proven blue print for how we as human beings can navigate our relationships with ourselves and those we encounter.
The only things you need are an open mind, a willingness to change, and to be completely honest with yourself. Here's a breakdown of what we did, they are known world-wide as the 12 steps.
01
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and drugs — that our lives had become unmanageable
This is the foundation of recovery and the only step that every individual has to get right. It requires brutal honesty with yourself and your situation.
02
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
Once you’ve settled the first step in your soul, this is a move toward hope. Hope that you and your life can be salvaged. This is a leap of faith for most of us.
03
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him
Once you’ve resolved yourself to your situation and have found hope that there is an alternative, all you have to do is let go of the concept that you can do it alone, and become willing to accept help from others.
04
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves
This isn’t something you have to rush into. Many of us will stumble on this step but when you’re ready this is a liberating step.
05
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs
After you’ve taken a good look at: yourself, your situation, and your behavior, you’re ready to get it off your chest. You don’t have to carry this alone.
06
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character
You’ve come so far! By the the time you arrive at step six you will have already accomplished so much, but you’re not done yet. This can be a really difficult step for many of us. You have to truly believe that you are worthy of forgiveness. This is where we make a decision that we are enough.
07
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings
Welcome to the back half of the course! It’s all down hill from here. We’ve admitted to ourselves that: we’re powerless, that we were ready for help, that we had a hand to play in all of our shortcomings, but that we are worth more than our past and want change. Now we just have to speak it out loud.
08
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all
For many of us this can be painful if you are just cataloging your bad behavior, but if you truly believe that change can happen this is just a tool to help you move on. It doesn’t have to be complete, but the more comprehensive it is the easier it will be to let go the baggage of your past.
09
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others
Take a deep breath and relax. This is not as daunting as it seems. Work with your sponsor and support group and create a plan. You’ll be surprised at the response you get.
10
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it
You just went through hell to try to clean your room, don’t wait until it’s overwhelming again. Simply process your day and if you have done anything that will cause you to lose sleep, fix it as best you can.
11
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out
This comes with time and practice. Think of it as spiritual exercise. It gets easier the more you do it.
12
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs
This is the fun step, simply work with others that are suffering. Keep your house clean and lend your vacuum to other people that need it.
An easier, softer way …
We can't promise you your life will be better. We can promise you that you will notice a difference, it's up to you to decide if the difference is better.
Here are some of the differences we've seen in our lives
01
We found peace
We learned to forgive ourselves and others and to let go of the things that were out of our control.
02
We found courage
We were able to recognize our role in situations that used to drive us to drink, and change the way we respond.
03
We found purpose
We were able to stop making everything about us and learned to truly love others.
